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Birthday party protocol

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ces1 1
hellonheelz 1
~Bea~ 1
Monkey Manners 4
Dawn 1
newbernbears 1
Bootie Skoocher 1
MrsMommyx1 3
pinkpolkadotz1 1
shizzlemydizzle 1
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Champ --- 5 years ago -

1. At what age would you be comfortable dropping off your child solo at a birthday party?

2. As a hostess what age do you think you'd assume the child will be dropped off alone?

(someone brought up to me around age 5, and in my mind that seems very young to just be dropping them off.We've only been to friend of the family's birthday party, and one classmates party just recently, and all parents always stayed. Oldest birthday child-age 7. My child is now 6.5. It's never even crosed my mind to leave her yet. 

shizzlemydizzle --- 5 years ago -

Yup, 5 - once they hit elementary school, it's pretty much a given they'll be dropped off for the party and picked up when it's over. 

Bootie Skoocher --- 5 years ago -

I write on the invitations "family" so they know they can all come. I don't want to be in charge of 20 4 year olds, lmao.

Right now it's easy for me to do that though, because I have 3 boys ranging in age from 3-8. Siblings would have a playmate. 

Monkey Manners --- 5 years ago -

I write on the invitations "family" so they know they can all come. I don't want to be in charge of 20 4 year olds, lmao.


LMAO

I also think if I saw "family" on an invitation I would think the same as what Skooch said and be more open to thinking of staying instead of dropping off.

A lot of people have parties and pay per guest so some people don't want you to stay like at Chuck E Cheese (thank God) because they have to pay even more if you did. 

Champ --- 5 years ago -

A lot of people have parties and pay per guest so some people don't want you to stay like at Chuck E Cheese (thank God) because they have to pay even more if you did


i thought you pay per child at those events,not guest (if I stayed-yet to go to a chuck E cheese party (yay- though my oldest wants her 7th bday there) I wouldn't be eating their pizza, cake etc (just my kid) but that's one of those locations I can't imagine leaving her by herself with parents that don't know my child. I don't want her to get misplaced (I know, I'm retardedly protective still)but if I take her to chuck e cheese, I stay with her the entire time. I don't sit at a table, and let her just wander around alone. 

newbernbears --- 5 years ago -

You have to be comfortable, case by case. 

~Bea~ --- 5 years ago -

We had a party for my son at Peter Piper Pizza and I invited my cousin's daughter who was elementary age. My cousin showed up with her 4 grown sons and her daughter! One son could eat a pizza on his own. My other cousin invited herself and I thought she bring along her boyfriend. She showed up with her married sister, her husband and my uncle and aunt! All I could hear was the cash register sound. LOL 

Dawn --- 5 years ago -

I don't leave my kids for birhtday parties unless I would leave them with the family otherwise. I do not participate or bring other children, but have helped out when needed. Why would you leave your child in the care of some one you do not know? 

Champ --- 5 years ago -

Does she tend to cry when she has to go to school or other places you're not?

Not at all, never been called when she's at a friend's or grandparents house hanging out either that she misses me. She likes the interaction of me cheering her on while she plays games, and has never acted like she didn't want me or my husband nearby.

I think her first 2 years of life is the only time she had seperation anxiety. I have friends with children the same age, and they do the same with their children. So, I don't consider it weird at all.

Ftr: I'm not like this everywhere just in very crowded locations. Parks I typically keep within eye watching distance unless she asks me to help with monkey bars etc 

hellonheelz --- 5 years ago -

I don't want her to get misplaced (I know, I'm retardedly protective still)but if I take her to chuck e cheese, I stay with her the entire time. I don't sit at a table, and let her just wander around alone.

I'm the same way with my daughter and she's almost 6!! She's very independent though, but I still don't trust people. A lot has changed since I was a child, so it's a lot harder to let mine just walk around alone in a very busy place!! 

MrsMommyx1 --- 5 years ago -

I think by first grade, but my son is only 2 so that seems so far off- maybe by then ill feel diff. There is no way id take him and drop him off at a party that I dont know the parents. You cant be to careful, people can turn out to be who you dont think they are. Personally, I never want to have a party without parents unless they are older hahah!!! I dont want to watch and be responsible for other peoples kids when all I want to do is focus on my sons birthday. 

Monkey Manners --- 5 years ago -

i thought you pay per child at those events,not guest (if I stayed-yet to go to a chuck E cheese party (yay- though my oldest wants her 7th bday there) I wouldn't be eating their pizza, cake etc (just my kid) but that's one of those locations I can't imagine leaving her by herself with parents that don't know my child. I don't want her to get misplaced (I know, I'm retardedly protective still)but if I take her to chuck e cheese, I stay with her the entire time. I don't sit at a table, and let her just wander around alone.


meaning if you had more children in your family

We have 5, if one is invited and showed up with 4 more, that's a damn party in itself. So, as the parent throwing the party, you invite 5 kids they have an average of 2 siblings each, you all of a sudden of 15 kids......... See where we're going with this?
No I don't suggest you drop a 5 yr old off at Chuck E Cheese to wonder around, stop being stupid. 

MrsMommyx1 --- 5 years ago -


We have 5, if one is invited and showed up with 4 more, that's a damn party in itself. So, as the parent throwing the party, you invite 5 kids they have an average of 2 siblings each, you all of a sudden of 15 kids......... See where we're going with this?


I would suggest not putting "family" on the invite, maybe something more like "and parent" or whatever. If the invite just says one of five of the child in the families name, the family should know that the one child is just invited. My mom would never have brought me along to a party that was just meant for my sister to be invited too. My dad or family would stay with me, and my mom would take my sister. 

Monkey Manners --- 5 years ago -

I would suggest not putting "family" on the invite, maybe something more like "and parent" or whatever. If the invite just says one of five of the child in the families name, the family should know that the one child is just invited. My mom would never have brought me along to a party that was just meant for my sister to be invited too. My dad or family would stay with me, and my mom would take my sister.


I don't take all of mine ANYWHERE together for bday parties, they range from 6 to 18 so obviously they aren't all going, it was just a scenario so she could understand why not all parents STAY with their child. If my husband is deployed and I'm the only one here and I have 2 or 4 small children and can't bring the other ones to a party, my options are drop off the one invited, or don't take any.

I don't do bday parties, there are too many brats out there that I don't want to have to take shots of tequila all day to keep from wanting to bust one's asssssss. Just sayin 

Champ --- 5 years ago -

Monkey, that was my confusion because I wasn't talking about bringing siblings. I was talking about dropping off a child by themself at a birthday party. Sorry if I didn't make that clear. 

Monkey Manners --- 5 years ago -

Monkey, that was my confusion because I wasn't talking about bringing siblings. I was talking about dropping off a child by themself at a birthday party. Sorry if I didn't make that clear.


nope I knew what you were talking about, just giving you situations as to why OTHER people have different feelings on it. 

pinkpolkadotz1 --- 5 years ago -

I would never want a child to be just dropped off at my kids birthday especially at a public place like chuck e cheese and I would never drop my kid off at anybody's house. If it was a party that only the child could go either me or dh would go and if that wasn't possible no one would go. Also I think its crazy how people rely on those little hand stamps at chuck e cheese to keep their kid safe. 

MrsMommyx1 --- 5 years ago -


I don't do bday parties, there are too many brats out there that I don't want to have to take shots of tequila all day to keep from wanting to bust one's asssssss. Just sayin


Hahahha, my choice of birthday party drink too :-P 

ces1 --- 5 years ago -

I know I'm old fashion in my way of thinking and the wold has changed ever so much, however I think if they are old enough to go to school by themselves, they should be able to attend a birthday party. When my kids were very young and in school, parents did not stay, but then I knew the parents. I've had several pool parties for the grandkids and the kids were just dropped off, one year the parents did introduce themselves and all worked out well. One year the others stayed for the party and what could I say, problem with that was they ate most of the food etc and my DH and I were there for the kids, not their Mothers 

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