The last four months I've maintained my manners with the older women in my family but I'm about to snap today. You raised your children, now let me raise mine. Your advice is horrible! 

lol...what are they telling you to do? 

Your advice is horrible! Lol. Sounds like my MIL. When our son was born she told us that if we tickled his feet he would stutter. 

Well when he was a month old they started the let him cry it out routine. My MIL thinks tummy sleeping, second hand smoke etc aren't dangerous at all. I'm spoiling him because I wear him in my moby wrap while we're out and about. He NEEDS solid food. Those cloth diapers are going to make him sick. etc etc etc 

I'm spoiling him You can't spoil a baby... I'd snap on the old bag, too. 

Solid foods already?! Brayden will be 6 months in about 1.5 weeks, and we've tried cereal ONCE. Christmas dinner he ate with us, then broke out in a horrid rash, and I'm scared to try again. 

What a brainiac she is. I'd be pulling my hair out by now. 

ahh sounds like my MIL. she tried feeding him mashed potatoes at like 4 months. i almost LOST IT! he didnt eat any solids til after 6 months. 

You can't spoil a baby Yes you can...maybe not at a month old though. 

I'll be the first to admit that I'm all about attachment parenting and that freaks them out. But he's happy and thriving and I'm happy too. 

Well when he was a month old they started the let him cry it out routine. I did when mine was a month old. It also helps to strengthen their lungs. No baby has ever died from crying. 

thats all that matters. we co slept with x until he was about 4 1/2 months. we got all kinds of crap for it from family and friends, but he perfectly fine and we loved it :-) 

I'm all about attachment parenting and that freaks them out. The biggest problem with attachment parenting is that most parents skip over the parts that deal with discipline and balancing the rest of their lives with the child. Then all it does (not that YOU are doing this) is creates a co-dependent child. 

It also helps to strengthen their lungs. Not true at all. It has been suggested in the past that CIO is healthy for infants' physical development, particularly the lungs. A recent study looking at the immediate and long-term physiologic consequences of infant crying suggests otherwise. The following changes due to infant crying have been documented: increased heart rate and blood pressure, reduced oxygen level, elevated cerebral blood pressure, depleted energy reserves and oxygen, interrupted mother-infant interaction, brain injury, and cardiac dysfunction. 

thats all that matters. we co slept with x until he was about 4 1/2 months. we got all kinds of crap for it from family and friends, but he perfectly fine and we loved it :-) And X is pretty independent from what I've seen. He is secure enough to explore on his own because he knows he can trust you to help him if he needs it. 

The point is that it's HER child and shouldn't have to deal with others in her family passing judgement or giving unwanted advice. Angel, have you talked to your family memebers about not wanting/needing their advice? 

I did when mine was a month old. It also helps to strengthen their lungs. No baby has ever died from crying. I said the same thing. I believe it was sharon who posted several links about crying it out not being recommended so young. I'll still let my son cry for 10 minutes before I go get him though. 

Our little one slept in her crib from the first night we brought her home, the only time she'll get in the bed with us is when she's sick. We did the Ferber (sp?) method and she's a very happy little kid. We let her cry it out most times because if she wasn't wet, hungry, or sick then there was no need for the Focker method. We'd let her cry it out at the most 15 to 20 minutes. 

A recent study looking at the immediate and long-term physiologic consequences of infant crying suggests otherwise. Lol @ a 'recent study'!! You can find a study on-line to support ANYTHING. 

Lol @ a 'recent study'!! You can find a study on-line to support ANYTHING. lol....I said the same thing when sharon posted her links. I think I found one disputing her 40-gazillion! :) 

We let her cry it out most times because if she wasn't wet, hungry, or sick then there was no need for the Focker method. What if she just wanted to be held? Hell, I'm 31 and sometimes I just want to be held. Do I cry about it? Not usually, but sometimes I just want the physical reassurance that comes with being held and comforted. 

No offense but the so called recent studies are all contradictory to each other. I've used advice from my family and it has worked. But everyone has their own parenting. Some advice you let in one ear and out the other. Don't get so mad with it either. Just remember they are trying to help you. 

I think I found one disputing her 40-gazillion! :) There's always a study for each side of any argument. You just gotta have balance, what more can a parent hope for? 

The point is that it's HER child and shouldn't have to deal with others in her family passing judgement or giving unwanted advice. Exactly. 

Just remember they are trying to help you. That's why I usually just say Thanks, maybe I'll try that. It's not always easy to keep my cool though. Everyone does it their own way and I can't say anyone is wrong. All I know is what works for me and my baby. 

I pretty much let advice go in one ear and out the other. What pisses me off is when the grandparents think they know what is best, and then proceed to do it whether you approve or not. For instance.... K did not get solids until she was 6 months old. I was very clear about that with J's mom. She watched K for one night while J and I went out. K was only 3 months old, and the b*tch gave her potato soup that I had made for dinner for her and the other kids that night. I was PISSED. Needless to say, she didn't watch K again. 

I know there are studies for both sides but I just know how crappy I feel after I cry. And I know that sometimes I just want to be near the people I love. Who am I to deny my infant that? 

Tell G'ma to beat it! 

MY girls both started cereal and some baby food at 3 months. (breanna had to have prunes because of constipation) But I do agree with you that if that's not something you wnat your child to have until a certain age then anyone besides you and your husband need to respect that. MY mom was really young when she had my brother and was by herself so she didn't know anything about raising a baby. She gave my brother mashed potatos at 4 days old. Oh man. lol 

I still wonder to this day if that potato soup has anything to do with K's sensitivity to milk products now. :(