dear Hubs, I don't know how many times we have discussed what a waste of money it is for you to eat out EVERY freaking day at work. Not just one time, but up to THREE times a day. On top of that, you stop at the gas station to pick up energy drinks EVERY freaking day you work. I mean really now? I make extra dinner so you can take leftovers to work, we went to the grocery store together to pick out things you can take for meals for breakfast and lunch and you NEVER freaking take them! Just this week alone you spent $94.62 and that is not even counting the $80 cash you pulled out or the fe the gas station charges EVERY time you use your card there! -One pissed off wife! 

Take the ATM card!!! That's what I did- Oh and write down EVERYTHING he spends with the ATM card and EVERYThing you swipe the card for... (hopefully yours is way less) hand him the paper - Hopefully he will get the point. Now me and my husband have a paper we write on every month - (His Namme) (My name) and (US)then we write everything we spend. My husband was spending $14.00 a day on lunch at BK!!? 

Take the ATM card!!! That's what I did- Oh and write down EVERYTHING he spends with the ATM card and EVERYThing you swipe the card for... what is he? her kid? you just need to talk to him, and make sure he gets it! but you can't treat him like a kid... he is an adult and you arent his mommy. 

That was just m-f it is freaking insane! It is every week too. I do spend more on my card but thats because I buy groceries for the entire family! I am just so aggravated about that right now! I am glad someone else can feel my frustration. I am about to move all the money out of checking (I only keep a limited amount there anyway) so next time he swipes it is is declined. Then he can see how serious I am! 

Tia, I have spoken to my husband NUMEROUS times about this issue. He obviously isn't listening. He has NO concept as to money. Every payday I move money into our two saving accounts, divide out what is for bills and leave some for extras. he dips into the bill money EVERY single time. I shouldn't have to babysit his spending...I'm going to whoop his a$$! 

Dear Work, It is just way too cold in here. There is no need to have the air on when it's 50 degrees outside. My toes are frozen and it's not like I am wearing flip flops. I have a huge sweater on and it really isn't helping me either. My account is locked out, and I would be doing homework, but I am too cold to even sit upright at my desk and look through my book. As I type this, I think my pointer finger is about to crack into 3038398209841 little pieces because it is frozen. This is bs. With much lo---HATE---ve, A frozen Katie. 

I shouldn't have to babysit his spending...I'm going to whoop his a$$! I understand that you are very frustated! I would be too. But I just don't think treating him like a child would help the issue, but that is just my opinion 

Dear week, You have been horrible, one of the worst in a long time. Can you end please? Next week has so much more to offer. Me Dear S, 5 more days until you catch that plane! Wish you could've been here, I needed you pretty bad lately. I got through it alone though. This deployment has made me realize I can handle anything on my own, I just don't want to! Love Jodi 

I understand that you are very frustated! I would be too. But I just don't think treating him like a child would help the issue, but that is just my opinion That is very fair..but we have talked about this numerous times. I even sat down with him and showed him this is the money that comes into our account every month. This is what goes to bills, groceries, kid stuff etc. This is what is left over..this is what I put in savings..I mean I can only talk so much before I am allowed to kick him in his leg! He things the money is endless and just keeps coming and never goes. It is a HUGE flaw of his! 

-One pissed off wife! Oooo that'd irriate me too. We bought drinks he liked in bulk and I packed his lunch everynight before bed. If I wasn't being lazy I'd get up and make him a nice breakfast while he was getting ready and bring my happy arse back to bed. I know you need to relax right now, but maybe he can make his lunch before he goes to bed and grab a poptart or something in the morning lol. 

Boobs, I make extra dinner every time I cook and put it away for his lunch the next day. Plus we went to the store togethe rto pick out things he can take to work for breakfast and lunch. He never does! I eat the leftovers and the stuff we bought 3 weeks ago for his lunch because he wasn't taking it. I don't know what else to do. Any othe rsuggestions would be great besides a good ole fashion as$ kicking! 

Dear Katie, I recommend investing in some super cute toe socks! I would hate for your littl epiggys to freeze! -The lady with a few pairs of her own 

I got nothing. You pretty much covered everything logical. Not much else you can do. 

My hubby eats Chic Fil A everyday lol. Not 3 times a day though. He eats it for lunch and then eats little things throughout the day. 

Krystal, I could handle that! He spent $229.02 this week alone on food, poole event and other work sh*t...its not acceptable! 

Don't they give them a card to use for stuff like that? My hubby has a gas card and now a card to spend on food. 

He has a gas card for his govie but he has to pay for all the poole events he goe sto. That is ridiculous to me! If it is required by the military to go to these events on just about a weekly basis, then the military should pay for it. 

For totally rockin, he goes to work so therefore i must assume he is the one bring home the bacon so to speak so he should be able to spend what lil extras he wants. Now if you were to get a job then that extra money you want for savings you personally can deposit. Problem solved, tune in tomorrow for more solutions. 

Yeah that IS ridiculous and IMO he should not have to pay for it. 

TR - Like you, my husband is also on recruiting duty. His spending was absolutly outrageous! I had tried everything you have, and still nothing changed. I know how frustrating it is! Here is the solution that I finally came to with my husbands spending - and this is something that we both agreed on. The navy fed Visa Buxx card! It is designed for teens, but I basically just put a designated amount on it every payday for him to use. Once the money is gone too bad. He also tracks it online, so he knows how much he is spending. You can set it up to automatically put a set amount of money on it if the funds get low, but I decided not to do that. There are no fee's involved with the card either! It gives him the opportunity to realize his spending habits, and be responsible. Let me know if you have any questions! 

For RR, $229 is not little extra on food for 1 week 

Retired, did you make an account just to say that to her? lol 

lol In the words of my 2 yr old nephew "yep yep yep yep yep yep yep" I think he did lmao 

Thanks Retired, We just moved here, I am pregnant and on bedrest so not able to work at the moment outside the home. However, I did bring home the bacon from both the jobs I worked before we moved here. I also have my own business that I work from home. So yes, thank you for thinking I am some fat lazy stay at home and live off my husbands paycheck loser, but that is not me. I enjoy working and bringing in the "bacon." Once I have this baby, I plan to be rigt back in the work field putting my college degree to use (which I got while working my two jobs, raising 3 kids and hubby being deployed). :) 

I am some fat lazy stay at home and live off my husbands paycheck loser, This is me lmao 

Peas, good suggestion! I will have to speak to him about how he would feel about that. I did just speak to him about his spending and he apologized and said he didn't realize he was spending like that, but that is his problem. He has never had to be financially responsible. 

fat lazy stay at home and live off my husbands paycheck In the famous words of Foghorn Leghorn "I..I...I resemble that remark" 

oh..and might I add..I was also room mom and pre K parent rep as well. Must never forget to make time for those most important in my life! I am waiting for my cookie now! 

lol Krystal and Fetus! That was not directed towards anyone..:) 

Mine did the same thing - "I didn't think I was spending that much." He hasn't had to be financially responsible either, but its never too late to start. I think there is a link on navy fed's home page about the card. I read up on it before I decided to do it. It really has been a great way for him to see exactly how much he spends, and try to change it.